Sue me

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

I believe Hilliard can treat Spike. So why wouldn't I try this treatment that Hilliard is recommending? Look... I'm not some crazy insensitive woman  who thinks if you have a disability your life is over. It's not.  But a lot of people out there think that makes you a target. It's cruel and terrible, but it's a reality. And I'd rather not have my son have to put up with all of that garbage and hate.  It's natural to want your child to have the best life possible.  But is he going to feel left out when he can't wear his cochlear implant in a pool at his friend's pool party? Yes.  How about when he's at school and the class bully is looking to make himself feel better so he picks on the deaf kid? This world can be a mean place... and I just want to find the "fix-it" to make it a happier one for Spike. But that's never going to happen if Zach and Ryan and everyone else who seems to have an opinion keeps interfering in Hilliard's treatment. I just want the best outcome to a bad situation. Sue me.

Comments

[Barb NY]

Kendall..I don't think anyone can fault you for wanting the best for your child. However, you really do not know anything about Dr. Hilliard other than what he has told you. You owe it to Spike to find out all you can about Dr. Hilliard and his treatments before you allow him to treat Spike. Zach has told you that he would help you to find out all you need to know about Dr. Hilliard. You know you can count on him. Ryan is another story but he is Spike's father and should be part of any decision made about Spike's treatment. You owe it to Spike to search out the best treatment for his condition. You have to find out exactly what Dr. Hilliard's treatment would be. Vitamins alone wll not restore his hearing. You are lucky to have a husband like Zach who is willing to help you find the best treatment. Even when Zach disagrees with you he still respects your opinion. Let him help you to do what is best for Spike.

[CindyK]

Kendall,

I can't fault you for wanting Spike to be "whole" and fit in with his classmates...but neither can I fault Zach for wanting the truth and to be part of the decision making process.

The reason I love you both so much is the fact that even when you and Zach disagree...you both respect each other enough to listen to the other's point of view.

I'm also glad that Zach reminded you that he is not Ryan...unfortunately Ryan is part of the equation...and by the looks of things not too happy. He really needs to take a lesson from Zach's book and give Annie her space. When Annie is ready to discuss what's bothering her, she will...although I wouldn't blame her if she didn't. Ryan has been so judgmental lately.

[MrsK]

Kendall,

I'm glad Zach found the vitamins and that everything is out in the open. Zach only wants what is best for Spike...just like you...which is why you make such a great team.

I was very proud of you both for stating your mind and opinions but at the same time taking the time to listen to one another.

And yes, thankfully, Zach is no Ryan.

I know Jack is Greenlee's father and loves her no matter what, but Greenlee is still selfish and as Erica told her pathetic. I might have an ounce of understanding if she actually learned from those mistakes she regrets.

[HalfPint]

Kendall,

I know you and Zach disagree vehemently in what is best for Spike...but I think we could all learn from your exchange today. You both spoke from the heart, got your point across, and at the same time, took the time to listen to one another. I'm also glad you felt comfortable enough to open up to Zach...because as he said he's not Ryan.

While I wish it weren't true, the reality is that as Spike's father, you will have to deal with Ryan...and by the looks of things...not an easy task.

I am really enjoying seeing Uncle Josh with Ian and surprisingly with Julia. Josh has really matured in the last year...and I see great possibilities with these two.

[Tigereye]

Kendall,

No, it's not wrong to feel that way, but I think if you had more rest, more time to absorb everything going on around you, you would see that it would be best to perhaps research things a little bit first instead of jumping in so quickly. I know you just want to protect your children and make sure absolutely no harm or bad thing ever happens to them. I know you feel that way, I heard you express all those fears last year to Erica on September 11. I understand, but as a protective mother, you need to be cautious as well. Checking up on Hilliard won't hurt.

[Brainerd]

Kendall,

As a parent I understand you not wanting Spike to be "different" than his peers. While kids can be cruel...don't let your fears get in the way of doing what is best for Spike. I know you don't want to accept his deafness because then it becomes the reality. I also know that Zach loves you and Spike enough to gently guide you on the path of acceptance. Ryan I'm not so sure about.

You have a ways to go yet, but you'll get there. Also, don't underestimate your son...if Spike is anything like his mom and step-dad his determination will get him through...and Zendall will guide him every step of the way.

Oh, love Uncle Josh in charge of Ian's music education!

[Jules]

You're a good mom, Kendall, but somewhere along the line, you forget that Zach (and Ryan) want what's best for Spike, too, and worse yet, you're cutting Zach out of the treatment for Spike, and that's not right. You and Zach are a team. Please remember that.

[KML]

You need to wake up and start realizing that your family is only trying to help! And by totally rejecting anything anyone else has to say you are limiting your sons chances of a good life! You're putting all your eggs in one basket and not even including anyone else in your decisions! That's selfish and wrong! Dr Hillard may or MAY NOT have the cure for Spike... but the way you're going about it will NEVER work out for the best!

[Kavin]

Oh Kendall, I so get where you're coming from, but you have to listen to Zach and Ryan. Something about this Hilliard guy is rubbing me the wrong way..I think he may not be what he seems. Just a hunch.

[Parker]

To Kendall

I know how you feel. I know that you want Spike to hear so badly and to make sure that he doesn't get picked on. Forget what other people think. Don't let them interfere with Spike's treatment with Dr. Hilliard. You're the only one who wants to help Spike while others want him to have the implant. If you believe that there's other options out there without Spike having an implant, then do what you have to do to help find Spike a cure.

[Kiya]

I totally agree with you Kendall. I have a child too and if she were in this situation I would do the exact same thing that you are doing. You are his mother and only YOU know what is best for that boy. My prayers are with all of you.

[mvvm]

You are absolutely correct, Kendall, in pursuing the best care for your son, but do include Ryan and Zach. Zach is on your side and wants to be included even if he thinks it is the wrong solution. After today's episode when you wrapped Ryan around your fingerat the park, I realized something. He always gives you your way if you act sweetly. Ryan can be kind of a brute -- though a foxy one -- but he positively melts when you bat your big eyes and speak gently. I know it is almost silly, but it is true: you'll get more bees with honey, my dearest. And like you said, you are willing to do anything to get Spike well again. Good luck and hang in there, Kendall!