No does NOT mean no.

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Oh, no. My son will NOT have a harder life because Ryan alienated Dr. Hilliard. I can't believe him! First, Ryan took Spike from me so he can have him 24/7, then he nearly refused to agree to some sort of  solution so I could be closer to my son, and now, he's royally screwed everything up. I believe Hilliard can cure Spike's deafness. But even if I were skeptical - what if he can cure him? Parents out there: If there's even the slightest possibility you could make your child's life easier, more adjusted... wouldn't all of you take the chance? I would never put Spike in harm's way - I would be a part of every step of his recovery - but we won't ever get the chance to find out for sure "what if?" Well - I won't take no for an answer. Never have, never will. Hilliard will cure Spike's deafness, and Ryan won't get to object this time.

Comments

[Bobbi]

To Kendall

You tell that bully. Forget what Ryan thinks. If you believe that the doctor can help cure Spike, then go for it. Don't let Ryan stop you for trying to get the help that Spike needs. If you believe it, go for it, but be cautious.

[Tigereye]

Kendall,

A marriage is a partnership. You share everything with your spouse. Remember you asked Zach to do that for you? You need to do the same. Now, Ryan, I can understand not taking anything he says seriously. But you definitely need to talk to Zach about this. Yes, if there's a possibility that this doctor can help Spike, you should investigate it. INVESTIGATE it. Not jump whole-heartedly into it first. Talk to Zach. He loves Spike as much as you do, you know Zach will be honest and truthful and do what's best for the boy. Now, get yourself over to the hospital for a wonderful surprise regarding Ian!

[MJK]

I know you want to do what's best for Spike, but you need to stop and think more clearly. A well-established procedure by well-respected doctors is the way to go. Not turning to a questionable fringe doctor.

And while you were obbessing on a non-existant medical cure, you missed a chance to bond with your other son. These moments you're missing with Ian are moments you can't get back. Think very carefully before you think that Ian isn't important enough for your time and attention.

Your are a good mom making some very bad choices.

[CindyK]

Kendall,

In my very humble opinion Ryan definitely is irrational at times and does have a double standard. His insisting on full disclosure yet forgetting to mention his investigation of Hilliard is a perfect example.

Yes, as a parent I would check out all possibilities. A good start might be contacting current and former patients, along with a thorough background check...and maybe checking into insurance fraud.

And I do have a better word than rude that would describe Ryan...but I don't thinks it's printable.

[MrsK]

Kendall,

As a parent I would exhaust all possibilites when it comes to finding an answer to any problems my family may be experiencing. I would also check out the doctor and methods used...so I don't think Ryan was completely wrong...but keeping you in the dark was not the way to do it.

Loved seeing Zach holding Ian for the first time and how supportive Josh continues to be. And yeah, I bet Zach's touch is definitely "firm and constant".

[HalfPint]

Kendall,

While I don't necessarily disagree with Ryan trying to check Hilliard out, Ryan showed his true colors of just how closed minded he is when it comes to Spike's treatment. He was extremely rude to the doctor and yes, at times was goading the doctor. Calling Hilliard arrogant sure didn't help.

While I love you and the feisty woman you are...before making any decisions please take the time to check into not only Hilliard's background but other doctors as well...just like Zach suggested.

On your way out...make sure you stop by to see Pine Valley Hospital's cutest preemie. Zach and Ian definitely had some "man time" today... awesome.

[Brainerd]

Kendall,

While I know you are all Kane and won't take "no" for an answer, please don't make any rash decisions without checking more into Hilliard and his background. Ryan may have gone about this the wrong way...especially calling the doctor names...but Hilliard still needs to be checked out. I also have a feeling Ryan's own words, "who is here or isn't here is irrelevant isn't it?", is going to come back and bite him in the you know what.

Love Josh and how supportive he has been not only to Ian but Zach as well. Very nice scene as Ian laid on Zach's chest...one of the safest places in the world to be...next to you arms.

[Shelley]

Unfortunately Kendall, you are putting your baby in harms way...not intentionally...you have no idea about what this doctor is about and you are just going on what you WANT to believe.

Here is some advice to determine if you are acting inappropriately...if you have to be deceitful to Zach, the man who backs you up even when he disagrees with you, you are probably not making the best decision for you or Spike.

[April]

Kendall,

I am sorry about Spike but it was not right to lie to Zach because you know he would support you with Spike and also you could have gone to the hospital with Zach to see Ian for a little bit and then go see this doctor about Spike. I know you want to fix Spike but it is not fair to Ian and Zach.

April

[Anne]

Kendall, Ryan was being an ass with Dr Hilliard but you really should be leary and you should have him checked out before you do anything. Maybe he is the real thing but you can never be too sure. You just want a cure and you are not thinking clearly. You need to sit down and calmly discuss this with Zach, he would listen to you and if it was something you really wanted he would go with you to Dr Hilliard's to find out more. He is that supportive of your opinions.

Speaking of Zach, you really should have gone with him to the hospital, he looked a bit hurt when you said no. Yos also missed out on a wonderful, amazing opportunity, Zach was able to Ian. It was a beautiful moment that should have been shared by the two of you. Josh helped arrange it. He has been a true brother to Zach, he really needs that right now.

I hope you will go to the hospital and hold Ian!!!!!!!

[Ladykoko]

As a Mom I know its hard but you need to step back. Yes, do all you can for your son but do the research first. Who is this guy? What are his creditials? What facilities is he associated with? Talk to other parents of children he has worked with. You don't want your child in the hands of some kook or sleezeball. Again, do the research. Most of all, breath.

[mvvm]

Kendall, as crazy as Ryan makes you feel these days, please remember he loves Spike just as much as you do. Ryan is the man who warmed your thoughts for years. He was your reason for being at one point and you trusted him with your life. Ryan is not your husband but he is your friend. Talk to him. Make him understand. You are the only woman who can change his mind. So change it: don't try to do it behind his back. Ryan will do anything for you and Spike. Just be honest and believe in Ryan. You are a great mom, an inspiration to me. Hang in there, Kendall, and don't forget that Ryan can be trusted to handle some of the big stuff with Spike so you can hold your wee one. Spike will hear again, one way or another. And Ian will live, too. Hang in there, mama bear. We all love you so much!

[Prettylady,LA]

Kendall, Don't do it!! Don't go behind Ryans back with Dr. Hilliard. You are not even talking to Zack about it, so he want be able to help you when time get bad. You have left Zack completely out of any decision about Spike. I know you want to help your son, but go about it the right way, don't jump before you check out how far is the fall. Remember Ian.