Miracle worker
Monday, August 20, 2007
A mother always knows best, right? I knew that Spike had more than one option. I knew he didn't need surgery and hospitals and intensive recovery - there is a cure out there! I believe it. I could almost feel it when Dr. Hilliard told me there is hope. Hope... that's what we've all been praying for. Now... I know it's not a sure thing... but if anyone can overcome deafness, it's Spike. He's got so many people pulling for him, and he's already proven how strong he is... this will work. I know it. It just has to...
Kendall,
I know with that big heart of your's you often let it lead you and don't stop and think about things. You need to do that now. You're tired, been through the emotional wringer and physically, you aren't 100%. And there are more people who need you besides Spike. You need to stop and slow down, not just for your own sake, but for those you love.
Posted by: Tigereye | August 20, 2007 at 08:25 PM
Kendall,
Hate to be Debbie Downer but Dr. Hilliard's simplistic approach of vitamins and observation scares me...although truthfully, as a parent I can understand you wanting to avoid surgery if possible.
As Dr. Norton said with cochlear implants there is a very good possiblity Spike will hear again...so don't give up real because there is real hope.
You also need to get thy self back to the hospital pronto...Zach very much needs you as does Ian.
Loved how Josh was at the hospital supporting Zach and explaning how each day is another day closer to a miracle for Ian.
Posted by: CindyK | August 20, 2007 at 08:37 PM
Kendall..You love Spike and want to find a cure for his deafness. You are not going about this the right way. Your decision to take Spike to Dr. Hilliard should have been a family decision. You should have spoken to Zach, Ryan and Annie about this. Dr. Hilliard needs to be investigated before you trust him with your precious son. I hate to say this but he reminds me of Dr. Madden and you know how that ended. Most important, you never should have left the hospital without telling Zach. He and Ian needed you and Zach couldn't find you. You forget that your preemie is in critical condition and needs his mother as much or even more than Spike. Ian needs brain surgery and Zach was alone and needed you to help make the right decision. Don't forget that Zach has been through a terrible time also. There is a limit to how much he can endure. He has nobody but you to turn to and sadly you are so obsessed with a quick cure for Spike that you haven't been there for him. Kendall, don't forget your husband and Ian. Ian has to know his mother's love and support also. You have to give of yourself to both of your sons and your husband.
Posted by: Barb NY | August 20, 2007 at 08:50 PM
Kendall,
I know you are concerned about Spike but before taking anything from this doctor please check him out...and those vitamins as well. I also know that you don't want to subject Spike to more surgery...but that may be his only option and the sooner it is done the better. I also understand why you might not want Spike to be "different" from other children.
Lily knows a lot about growing up "different" and has succeeded in facing many of the challenges in her life. Spike will too. If we were all the same the world would be a very boring place.
Posted by: HalfPint | August 20, 2007 at 08:52 PM
Kendall, I hope this doctor isn't just out for your money and I hope Spike hears again, I really do, but you should never have turned off your cell when Zach called. He really needed you, Ian needed you. You do have two sons and one is hanging on by a thin thread. Do not forget about him!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by: Anne | August 21, 2007 at 03:32 AM
A mother is not always right, Kendall. Especially a desperate mother who feels guilty for the plight of her child. Don't put your faith blindly in some fringe doctor who tells you that Spike is more important than your other son. You can't give 100 percent to Spike and expect to have anything left for Ian.
Didn't you learn anything with your experience with Greg Madden? Some doctors play on a person's desperation. Madden did it and this Hilliard guy may be doing it as well.
Posted by: MJK | August 21, 2007 at 04:45 AM
You're a loving, desperate mother, and I understand why you want to believe and explore all options. But to leave the hospital without telling Zach? To go when you haven't checked out the doctor first? That's not like you, Kendall. Hope is a beautiful thing, and I'm pulling for Spike, but Ian needs you right now, and so does Zach. Let's try to have our priorities straight, and do things in the right order. Right now, Zach has his head on straighter than you do. Rely on his judgement. You know he's right alot more times than he's wrong.
Posted by: Jules | August 21, 2007 at 05:42 AM
No mother "always" knows best Kendall! We mother's are human and makes mistakes just like everyone else, and right now, I feel you're making one with Spike! You really should listen to the doctors and your husband sometimes, and not always do what YOU want to do, because it's not always the right thing.....I thought that you would have learned that lesson by now, considering everything that's happened with Greenlee! Could that be the reason why you're so obsessed with Spike and his hearing, and concentrating only on him, while "neglecting" your premature baby Ian? SHAME ON YOU KENDALL!
Posted by: Millie | August 21, 2007 at 06:51 AM
Kendall, I admire your will to help Spike in any way, but you can't forget that you have another son too. I feel really bad for Zach that he is alone right now and suffering just like you are. He has always been there for you.
Posted by: Annie | August 21, 2007 at 07:57 AM
Kendall,
I know that you want Spike "whole" but sometimes there just is no magic cure. Please keep an open mind regarding surgery...cochlear implants have helped many people regain their hearing.
In the meantime I am praying for a miracle for little Ian. He needs you as does Zach right now more than ever.
Posted by: Brainerd | August 21, 2007 at 08:20 AM
Kendall,
I know that you want hope and need hope and hope is a good thing. But Dr. Hilliard is using your desire for hope and desperation for Spike to hear again. I know that you only want what's best for Spike. But I'm afraid this course of action will only hurt him and you too.
Your other baby, Ian, needs his mom too. And Zach needs his wife. I'm afraid that you aren't going to be any good to any of them unless you get some help.
Posted by: Sarah | August 21, 2007 at 08:30 AM
I think that it is admirable that you want to make sure that everything is okay with Spike but you have another son who has life threatning conditions that you overlook. Zach is growing weary and things are going to start going wrongif you don't start to show concern for your other son.
Posted by: carla | August 21, 2007 at 09:38 AM
Kendall remember the old adage if it sounds to good to be true it usually is. Now get your beautiful self back to Ian - He needs you right now more than Spike - Let Ryan and Annie take him home and YOU concentrate on Ian with Zach. They really need YOU
Posted by: Bonnie | August 21, 2007 at 05:36 PM